10% Happier: Expectations

I’ll be honest, I wasn’t really planning on posting today. I had another topic ready, but I wasn’t really feeling it.

That is, until I heard the introduction to Dan Harris’s podcast, 10% Happier.

You may remember my previous posts about Dan. He’s the ABC News anchor who wrote a book by the same name (10% Happier; I’m honestly not sure what the tag line is at the moment).

It’s his first book, and it introduced me to the concept of meditation, and helped me start my own meditation practice a few years later. Don’t ask me why I waited years to start; I don’t know. It probably would’ve helped me manage my anxiety sooner.

Anyway, at the beginning of today’s podcast – new episodes drops every Wednesday – Dan listens to two voicemails and tries to answer any questions his listeners/readers may have.

The second question was from a guy who was experiencing a sort of warm and fuzzy feeling during his meditation, and he wanted to know if it was normal. What Dan said is the reason I’m writing this post. As per his usual caveat, he stated that he is not a meditation teacher. I’m sure what the whole answer was (if you want to check it out, I’ve posted a link to the episode below), but he advised the caller to “drop [all] expectations.”

Which is exactly what I need to do as well. As you may or may not know, I’ve been struggling a bit since I graduated college last year. Tonight, I realized that part of the problem is my big picture thinking. I’ve been daydreaming about all the expectations and goals I have for my life. But in order to achieve said goals, I need to get rid of the expectations of what my life is going to be like and start all over from the ground up.

As boring as it sounds, before I can even think about my goals, I need to focus on the steps I have to take to achieve them. One of the “umbrella” steps – that is, bigger categories containing small steps – is independence. I won’t really be able to do anything – let alone work towards my goals – if I always have to depend on other people.

That’s my epiphany for tonight. Thanks Dan!



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