I spent years caring so deeply that I couldn’t do anything. I cared so deeply about trying to be excellent, trying to live up to an inner standard that I was crippled as a result.
Another thing about fiction: the boys. They’re always attractive: good-looking, daring, protective of their girlfriend, and caring. Not at all pushy – they won’t make her do something she doesn’t want to. They love her so much they do anything to keep her. Of course, most fictional couples fight about something, but they are almost always able to work through the issue.
This sets the average fangirl’s expectations pretty high, and most real guys unfortunately fall short. Fictional boys are able to warp a girl’s mind and obliterate any previous standards for a boyfriend. in order to find love in the real world, girls cannot let fictional standards take over their brain. They cannot compare fictional boys to real ones. It’s not a fair comparison. The most important thing may be that they need to stop thinking “Why am I the only one who doesn’t have a boyfriend?” and let love take them by surprise.